“Minna”: Thoughts from a Dummy Mummy

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Scarlett, for some unexplainable reason, calls her dummy a “minna”.  Don’t ask me why – I’ve never called it anything but a dummy!  For some reason, she has quite firmly decided that it is called a “minna”.

I never intended for my baby to have a dummy.  In fact, I used to hate them.  But Scarlett has always had a very strong need to suck.  When I weaned her from the breast at 6 months old, I quickly realised I was going to need something to replace my boob for times when she needed comfort, not food.  It made me realise how often she had been comfort sucking at my boob!

I did my research and I do know the risks of using a dummy – largly orthodonic risks.  In the reality of day to day life though, I just don’t know how we’d do without it.  As I have often discovered in my parenthood journey, intentions can often mean nothing if they are formed without accurate expectations and understanding of the situation you are creating intentions for.

Interestingly, the majority of the cot death research suggests that having a dummy DECREASES the chance of cot death.  Funny how the powers that be are so quick to promote things like breastfeeding and not smoking when they show a correlation with a lowered chance of cot death… and yet you don’t really hear about this other potential risk-lowering factor to nearly the same exent.

It’s not like I use the dummy as a substitute for mySELF, for my motherly love and presence.  But rather, if she is hurt or tired or needs comfort, she will feel more comforted sitting in my arms with her dummy, than she will sitting in my arms without her dummy.  It calms her, gives her that point of focus.  It reminds me of how I feel when I take that first sip of a much needed cup of tea – her whole body relaxes, the tension goes.

Will I have to go through some painful “removal” process at some point?  Maybe.  Maybe not.  Have you ever met an 18 year old who still uses a dummy?  For now, as with most things in parenthood, I am just letting her have what she needs and going with the flow.  When she needs comfort, when she needs to be calm, when she asks for it – she has her “minna”.

I had this conversation with her the other day on the change table:

Scarlett: <holding her dummy and pointing to it> “Minna minna minna!”
Me: “It’s a DUMMY!”
Scarlett: “Itsa MINNA!” <shoves it in her mouth and glares at me>

I guess it’s a minna then! 😛

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10 thoughts on ““Minna”: Thoughts from a Dummy Mummy

  1. This is funny because yesterday I wanted to write that it was so sweet when the dummy fell out of her mouth as she fell asleep but I had no idea what it was called. Now I know it’s a MINNA!!!

  2. I have a 3yrs and 4months daughter. She’s in dummy until two days ago. She calls it “achi” from pacifier word to paci to achi. Lol. Anyway, she had that since about 3-4months. Same reasons with u. At around your daughter’s age it’s hard to take it out so I said to myself to delay it and ignore what everybody’s saying. She had her dental check up overseas. She has perfect set of teeth. Maybe because her first tooth errupted 16months. I had to bribe her just days ago. That the mall is going to let her have tri-scooter which she has been wanting. I gave her toy bucket and let her put all her “achi”. So she did. And yes, she got heaps. She needs 3 dummies every now and then. As besides sucking it she developed her passion of also having each hand dummy.

    • haha Steffany, my daughter likes to have a dummy in each hand too! And she likes to hold one while she sleeps, even when there is also one in her mouth. Strange little habits! I’ve no idea how it will go when she’s older but I guess I’ll just deal with it as it comes.

  3. Seth called his Minna too! The words above are like they came out of my own mouth as I felt the same way and he ended up with one too. We are at the end of the weaning process now and it isn’t as bad as I thought it would be ( we cut the tip off the dummy and are letting him self wean).

  4. Yep. We went down the dummy route too. (But we called it ‘nukkie’ as they were ‘nuk’ brand.) Thomas had it from birth until he was almost two. There are plenty of breastfeeding advisors that will tell you that pacifiers are incompatible with nursing, but we managed to do both. He used it for the exact same reasons as Scarlet – comfort when he was tired or hurt. I distracted him once when he asked for it when he was about 20 months and he was fine so I did the same thing for about the next 3 days and he never asked again. I thought weaning would be a nightmare but it was soooo easy! (I did the same thing when I wanted to wean him from breastfeeding at two-and-a-bit and that was easy too.)
    Don’t sweat it. As long as it’s not stopping her from communicating, I’m sure it’s doing her more good (as in settled) than harm and she won’t always have it. Enjoy the comfort ‘minna’ brings while it lasts!

    • Thanks Tarnya, that is exactly the kind of thing I was hoping to hear! 🙂 I have just been hoping that there would come a day when it wouldn’t be a struggle for her to be without it, ya know? I believe in making life as easy as possible for yourself 😛 Scarlett’s favourites are the Nuk brand ones too. And there is no fear on the communication front – she is a major chatterbox!!

  5. I just found your blog and love it. Thank you. I just wanted to let you know that my daughter had a dummy til she was 5 years old. She gave it up on her on when she was ready. She is now 14 and has the most beautiful teeth and smile in the world. No orthodontic problems at all. 🙂 you little one is beautiful! God bless you all!

    • Thank you so much Alexis! I’m so glad you’re enjoying my blog! And thank you for sharing your experience with your daughter, it really makes me feel better about my approach hearing things like that. Thank you!

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